Do you have an experience that who you are keeping in contact with are not the closest friends in the past but the closest friends (used to be) have never kept in contacted?
I have this experience.
One of my dear friends will arrived Sydney tomorrow and I feel exciting of that because it is my first time to meet him here. I know him for more than 4 years and we were in the same secondary school. Even though we had a good friendship in school, there was still a gap between us as we were not in the same class and he was doing the higher level class. We did not have a closed friendship at that time. However, we have still kept in very good contact with each other since he was graduated from our school. We keep a very good friendship now and even stronger than before. Every time we have gathering, we chat for very long time and never feel bored. Now he comes to Sydney for visiting his sister and he still thinks of me and brings me a lot of things.
This makes me think that why I can keep a very good friendship with those who were not the closest people in the past (he is one of the cases)? But Why I could not keep the friendship with some who used to be my closest friends in the class??
I remember that I had a closed friend when I was doing high school in Hong Kong. She is girl and she seems like having a lot of common things with me so that we became very good friends. We used to go toilet together, join the same make-up class or even share a lunch box. We did every thing together and teachers even called us "twins". I felt very happy to be with her and I think she had the same feeling with me. However, I do not know what causes an estrangement between us and we have not contacted with each other since we were graduated.
I do not think it is the "fate" (Chinese concept) of our relationship. It was just because I was "lazy" to keep this friendship. Building up a friendship is no easy, it needs time and motivation. I feel sorry for this friendship because I think I miss something. If I have tried to give her a call or just sent her an email, I will not miss a friend, a very good friend.
What else I learn from this is that I will cherish all friends I now have!!
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ok, dada... I also know keeping a friendship is not easy... I have a very good friend when I was 10 years old, after I moved we are still pen-friend, but now, I didn't contact her any more, I lost a good friend, so sad....
Dada... I had the same case with you... (That I had a closed friend when I was doing high school in Hong Kong and we have not contacted with each other since we were graduated.)
But the different thing between you and me is...(If I have tried to give her a call or just sent her an email, I will not miss a friend, a very good friend.) Even though I had call her for such a long time, she also didn't reply me. I don't know why and what happen between us?! It seems for 2 years. Most of my friends asked me... Don't you think it is pity??? For my answer, certainly pity!!! Because we had shared everything and build up a very good friendship with each other before.
From now on, I will still treat her as my friend and remember all the things we had done before, include all the happiness and sadness things... Inasmuch, I must CHERISH everything now... Otherwise, you will regret.
You are my good friend also!!!^^
Hehe....
i think everyone has the same prob. in keeping relationship with their friends,especially the closest friend...
cos we work really hard on how to shorten the distance between us...whereas we ignore some important pieces.
actually,closest friends does not need to stay together every moment and share things every time.
sometimes it's really important to keep a distance between friends. We should leave private room for each other.
and distance can even strenghten the relationship.cos it makes us feel the cherishness of our friendship after being separated.
To: Stephanie
So we take it as a lesson
We have to cherish our friends
To: Kwan
haha~~ we are good friends definitely!! we have known each other for more than 20 years...
oh ... since we were baby@@
To: ShuShu
you are so lucky one...
yes!! I agree with you
sometime we need distance between friends~
just like my best friend~
we haven't seen each other every day~ but our friendship is very strong!! like sisters~
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